Divorce is the end of your marriage, not your family

Divorce is a legal term; it is the dissolution of a marriage. However, there are other associations with the term ‘divorce’ which can bring fear, sadness, anger, and hope. What does a divorce mean to you? A divorce brings change in your life and if you want to control the outcome and focus on having a good divorce, I recommend you choose a process which encourages you to keep talking and avoid blaming. There are options out there: using [...]

May 1st, 2020|Mediation|

Online Divorce and Co-Parenting Mediation

Online Divorce and Co-Parenting Mediation Now that everyone is online and at home, couples may be wondering whether to start a conversation about a formal separation or a divorce. Deciding to end a relationship is rarely easy and couples may be feeling stuck right now. During this period of uncertainty it can feel like there is no roadmap and we are all trying to find our way through it as best we can. Speaking to a family mediator [...]

March 29th, 2020|Mediation|

Are you ready to Mediate?

Are you ready to Mediate? Engaging in the mediation process is the start of moving away from being a couple and thinking about yourself as two individuals living apart. Separation inevitably involves change - different living arrangements, change of routine, contact with your children, and a legal process. In some ways, you may not be completely separate as you could continue to be linked financially e.g. providing income to the other if there is a disparity in income [...]

January 26th, 2020|Mediation|

What is a Parenting Plan?

What is a Parenting Plan? If you’re in the early stages of parenting separately, then there are practical decisions and arrangements about your children to discuss with the other parent, even when it is an amicable between you.  This is in addition to the legal side of a separation. Often, the first consideration is what to tell the children about your separation and when. In mediation, you can decide what to say and consider age-appropriate language to use [...]

April 3rd, 2019|Mediation|

It’s Good To Talk

It's Good To Talk The mediation process encourages you to talk and listen to each other. Understandably, you may feel anxious about how your future will pan out, after a separation. This is normal and sometimes the hardest step is to begin. I offer a no obligation introductory meeting where I explain how mediation works. Gathering financial information is often the first step and it can be daunting to know where to start. There is a distinction between [...]

March 23rd, 2019|Mediation|

Mr v Mrs: Call the Mediator – A review

Mr v Mrs: Call the Mediator – A review The documentary has raised the profile of family mediation and provided some insight into what can go on behind closed doors. There were a cross-section of family disputes to include: marital breakdown, division of financial assets, and arrangements for a child. As a practising family and divorce mediator, my interest was more in highlighting the mediators’ skills in favour of listening to the couples’ conflicts. Arguably, this does not [...]

January 23rd, 2019|Mediation|

Advantages of Family Mediation

Advantages of Family Mediation Family and Divorce Mediation can take a broader approach than court proceedings, addressing issues individual to the people involved, which allow for more creative and personalised solutions. Other advantages include: You both decide the pace of progress by scheduling more or less frequent appointments, which are not subject to the same timetabling issues as court proceedings. It is cheaper than court proceedings and litigation; you both share the cost of one mediator, rather than [...]

January 23rd, 2019|Mediation|

Family Mediation – what do you need to know?

Family Mediation – what do you need to know? What does a family mediator do? The mediator’s role is help a separated couple reach a mutual decision. The mediator facilitates discussion, explores solutions and helps a couple find a workable settlement. There are two types of mediators. Consider whether you see a lawyer-mediator (i.e. legally trained) or a non-lawyer mediator (i.e. a therapeutic mediator). Consider whether to use one mediator, or two mediators. Co-mediation is often helpful for [...]

January 22nd, 2019|Mediation|

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